#1 I can only hypnotise you if you want me to
The process of hypnosis is a two way partnership between me as the hypnotherapist and you as the client. I will only work with you if you have come willingly to therapy and are interested in getting results. Yes of course you can resist the process, but that will only make it more difficult for me to help you. If you have any questions or concerns please let me know so that we can discuss them and set your mind at rest.
#2 Hypnosis is not mind control
Despite what you might have seen on TV, there is no way for me as a hypnotherapist to see into your mind, read your thoughts, or access your deepest secrets, unless of course you want to share them. Hypnosis cannot be used to force someone to tell the truth, or to make someone do something that they do not want to do.
#3 Hypnosis is not like being asleep
Hypnosis feels different for everyone, although most people find it a relaxing experience. However unlike when you are asleep, you are still aware of your surroundings, and can choose to come out of hypnosis at any time (should you wish to). When the session ends, the hypnosis ends – there is no way for you to stay “trapped” in a hypnotic state.
#5 Hypnosis gets easier with practice
Some clients find that the first time they experience hypnosis, it feels a little strange. Sometimes they might feel a little self conscious or anxious about what might happen. I can assure you that hypnosis is something that becomes easier the more you experience it. I will also often suggest to clients that they practise at home between sessions, perhaps with the use of a CD, and this certainly seems to help.
#6 You might not be able to tell when you are in hypnosis
Because hypnosis is such a normal and natural state, it can sometimes be hard to tell when you are in hypnosis. Afterwards you might wonder if what you experienced was “really” hypnosis at all. However even if your mind is wandering or you are finding it hard to relax, the session can still be effective. What’s more, I can generally tell from your body language and facial expression what depth of hypnosis a client has reached and can change my approach accordingly to make sure that you get the most out of the session.
#6 I will never say “look into my eyes”…
Unlike hypnotists on TV I do not hypnotise people just by having them stare into my eyes! Nor do I use a pendulum or pocket watch. I will help you go into hypnosis simply by talking to you and asking you to think about various things. All that you need to do is listen, and be prepared to give me your full attention.
#7 Hypnosis is usually a pleasant experience
Most people find hypnosis a pleasant and relaxing experience. It is very common for clients to tell me they didn’t want the session to end. Afterwards most people feel relaxed and refreshed, and ready to go about their day.
#8 but….sometimes can be challenging
There can be times when hypnosis involves thinking about experiences that have been uncomfortable, or exploring inner conflicts or beliefs. Depending on the issue we are working on, it is not uncommon for clients to feel emotions such as anger or sadness at times during a session. However be assured that these feelings are a normal and healthy part of the process and I will support you through this.
#9 Hypnosis is a powerful tool for personal change
Hypnotherapy has helped many people to make extraordinary changes in their lives. It is a very safe therapy which almost anyone can benefit from, whatever their age, gender, or background. Hypnotherapy can be very useful in understanding why you might do certain things, and identifying what might be stopping you from achieving your goals. Hypnotherapy can also help to increase motivation, reduce stress, and help you focus on your goals. Hypnotherapy can be useful for a very wide range of issues and concerns.
#10 Hypnosis is not a magic bullet
Hypnosis can achieve some great results but at the end of the day it can only work if you really want it to. If you don’t really want to stop smoking, then no amount of hypnotherapy can make you stop. If you want to lose weight, then realistically you will need to change the way you eat and take appropriate exercise. Put simply, hypnotherapy is a partnership and your participation and commitment is a vital part of the process.
In working with you I promise to bring all of my professional skills, experience, and training to the party, and to provide you with an individualised course of therapy to help you meet your goals.
In return I ask you to come with an open mind and a willingness to work with me. Together we can do amazing things!
To find out more about how hypnosis can help you, why not give me a call on 0772 0887205 or drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Every year it seems as if Christmas comes earlier and earlier. For some weeks now the shops have been full of Christmas decorations, Christmas food, Christmas decorations, even Christmas jumpers. Even for those who do not celebrate Christmas as a religious festival it seems there is no escaping the madness of the holiday season.
Magazines and TV advertisements paint a highly idealised picture of the "perfect" Christmas to which we should all aspire, a perfectly decorated home, an array of luxurious gifts beneath a beautiful tree, a smiling and beautifully dressed family enjoying a delicious and stylish Christmas dinner together. The pressure is on!
Of course here in the real world Christmas may not quite work out like that - the children are overtired and supercharged on sugar, the cat climbs the tree and destroys the decorations, the turkey turns out dry, nobody wants to play games, and there is nothing good on the telly.
Yes Christmas can be a magical time and has the potential to be full of joy, but for many it can be a stressful experience. Existing pressures such as financial insecurity or family tensions can seem even more intense at this time of year. Spare a thought too for those struggling with additional problems such as bereavement, caring for elderly or sick relatives, coping with depression, anxiety, or health issues.
So how can we avoid feeling overwhelmed? Here are my top 5 tips for how to maintain a sense of perspective, and have a calm and happy Christmas.
#1 Let go of Your Expectations
If we set ourselves unattainable goals, we are leaving ourselves open to disappointment. Try to let go of your expectations about what the "perfect" or "ideal" Christmas is. Ignore the Facebook photos showing everyone having a great time and remember the reality is heavily edited for public consumption! So what if the decorations on our tree are not perfectly colour co-ordinated. So what if we don't have the perfect free range organic three bird roast with handmade stuffing. Letting go of the need for perfection can be so liberating.
#2 Don't be Afraid to be Selfish
Find time among the festivities for the things that really make you feel good and nourish the spirit. Remember that you can't take care of others unless you take care of yourself. Taking 5 or 10 minutes away from the madness to practice some deep breathing or do some stretches can really help recharge the batteries. Even better, find the time for a hot bath or encourage everyone to go out for a walk in the fresh air.
#3 Do It Your Way
Don't like a roast dinner? Make a curry instead. Don't want to have drinks with the neighbours? Don't go. Prefer a hot chocolate to a mulled wine? Feel free. There is no law that says Christmas must be done a certain way, or that New Years Eve must involve a party. In fact it can be fun to create your own family traditions and ways of doing things that mean something to you.
#4 Give the Gift of Your Attention
Instead of getting stressed trawling the shops for that perfect gift, think of spending your time rather than your money. Your children won't care if they don't have new pyjamas and a matching Christmas duvet, but they will care if you are stressed out of your mind and unable to relax on Christmas Eve. Remember that your attention is more valuable than any gift. Spend an afternoon with your children making wonky home made mince pies. Visit a friend for a cup of tea and a chat. Help out at a local homeless shelter or dog rescue. None of these things cost money but they have enormous value and will be remembered longer than the most expensive present.
#5 Count your blessings - this may be a cliche but it really does work. Taking time to be grateful for what you have, however modest. Sometimes helping others can put our own troubles into perspective. Christmas can be a good time to think about giving something to the community, perhaps even more so if you will be alone at Christmas or do not celebrate it yourself.
#6 Be Kind to Yourself - okay so I lied, there are 6 points and not 5 but I feel this one is actually the most important. Be kind to yourself. This is even more true if you are struggling with a personal issue such as depression which can seem even more of a burden than normal. Resolve to cut yourself some slack over the holiday period, and when Christmas is over perhaps consider seeking some professional help to help you get the New Year off to a more positive start.
In the meantime, wherever you, and whatever your personal or spiritual beliefs, I wish you a calm, and happy Christmas and a very Happy New Year.